Choosing your Life Partner

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When marriage is spoken of during these "modern" times, people become horrified, conjuring images of an arranged marriage, trying to find that "perfect" companion, how much of a financial burden it will become, and so on. The reality is that we can solve these problems, not exacerbate them, yet unfortunately we have integrated our local traditions and customs so that marriage has become a major concern for a man rather than a delightful experience.

When living in a free, perverted and corrupt Western society, the male youth finds many temptations and tests, as a result of mixing with females, which he must face and overcome. He must constantly resist these temptations, which are thrown at him in the streets, on the media, and at work. And so the wisdom of the Prophet (s.a.w) echoes on, when he said: "O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains the eyes from casting (evil glances), and preserves one from immorality..."

When seriously considering marriage, you must pose the question to yourself as to just what kind of wife you want, what her qualities should be in order to establish peaceful household, and how you will know who she is.

"A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, may you be blessed." This specifically defines just what kind of a companion we are seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her religious piety, our marriage is bound to fall into misery.

True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not last forever and does not guarantee you her obedience and religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it may be that through your intention of marrying her for her religion, the rest is given to you anyway. In another hadith, "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." Imagine! Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious woman! This point has been stressed many times by Great persons,

QUALITIES OF THE PIOUS MEN & WOMAN

qualities which by the way should be evident in both males and females. So, my dear brother, choose her for the following attributes:

-a believing person

-a devout person

-a true men /women

-a men /woman who is patient and constant

-a men /woman who humbles herself

-a men /woman who gives charity

-a men /woman who fasts and denies herself

-a men /woman who guards her chastity

-a men /woman who engages much in God's praise.

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Matrimony, Marraige - Get Out there and flirt

Matrimony - No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be devastatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at batting your eyelashes. To master the fine art of flirting, follow these simple guidelines and you will be on your way to being the best flirt in town.

• Give out the right signals Be sure, that you give out the right signals. If you are interested in some one enough to want to take it further then just flirting then flirt like mad. However if you are flirting just for the fun of it make sure that the man knows this, and that your body language isn't telling him otherwise.
  
  
• Dress for the eye If you want someone to approach you it is much easier if you're wearing a conversation starter (i.e. a badge, a crazy wig.) This will also show that you have a funny side.
  
  
• Feel good about yourself Feel good about yourself, about what you wear, about your hair and others will feel good about you.
  
  
• Get eye contact Some people might take offence if you stare at them for a long period of time. Let the guy know you are trying to catch his eye then when you hold his gaze give a gentle smile and let your eyes drop to the floor. He won't feel intimidated and he will know that you are interested.
  
  
• Smile This shows friendliness and self-confidence, which is viewed as one of the most attractive qualities a member of the opposite sex can have.
  
  
• Who's watching Walk though a group of men and have your friends watch to see who is checking you out.
  
  
• Mingle Walk about and mingle with people. Get to know friends of the guy you are trying to attract.
  
  
• Separate yourself from friends Take time out to be alone for a bit. This will make you more approachable. Men some times feel awkward approaching a woman when she is in a crowd of other women.
  
  
• Be polite If you aren't interested in a guy, be polite when you reject him. It takes a lot of courage to approach someone so be sure you turn him down in the way that you would appreciate being turned down.
  
  
• Have a conversation starter ready It is know good approaching a man if you don't know what you are going to start the conversation off with. You could start with a witty line such as "great tie may I buy it from you when you are finished with it?" Or you could simply start with your name, but remember to back it up. He might be just as nervous as you.
  
  
• Boost his ego A little flattery never hurt any body. Men have always used flattery on women to get what they want so why can't we women.
  
  
• Be interested Ask him lots of open-ended questions. Ask him his interests, what he does for a living You may find that you have a lot in common other then physical attraction.
  
  
• Make the first move A lot of men find it attractive when a woman approaches them and find it easier and more relaxing to talk openly.
  

Don't pretend Don't pretend to be something you are not especially if you would like to see the guy again

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